It’s finally arrived!
You are reading the very first blog post on my new website and I couldn’t be more thrilled that you stopped by. This site has been brewing in my heart and mind for years and I’m excited to finally share it with you.
I recently had a powerful realization about negative emotions and my thoughts. This gave me serious clarity while providing a beautiful jumping-off point to propel me in the direction I want to go in my life; that is, to feel good and enjoy whatever it is that I’m doing.
Our mind and emotions play a powerful, yet underappreciated role in the health and daily function of our body. When we tune in to the power of our mind, we can create significant, lasting change and even permanently transform our body and life. I know this is possible because I keep experiencing it firsthand.
You may not know that I used to have neck and back pain that, at one point, was painful enough to help end my fourteen-year career in hairstyling.
You also may not know that I no longer suffer from that pain. While I credit Pilates and my movement career, to some extent, for my pain-free life today, the major credit goes to the change I’ve made in my thinking habits.
Though it may sound a bit “out there” to say you can change your life by thinking differently, it’s been my repeated experience that this really is the case and I’ve seen how changes in thinking have influenced the lives of many others through the years as well.
What Exactly is a Miracle-Minded Body?
The metaphysical text and self-study guide, A Course In Miracles, defines a miracle as a shift in perception from fear to love.
An interesting thing to note about fear is that many of us hear that word and we think, “Oh yeah, I know what that is and I know when I’m feeling it.” But, as it turns out, there are a lot of times when we are numb, or completely unaware that we’re creating and living in a fear-based state of mind.
Fear isn’t just being afraid that something bad is going to happen, or fearing for your life. Fear, in this sense, is any time you are feeling any type of negative emotion.
Insecurity, judgment, resentment, unworthiness, powerlessness, worry, doubt, frustration and anger are all examples of negative emotions based in fear.
Every time you feel negative emotions, it’s a sign from your inner guide telling you that something you’re thinking is out of alignment with the truth of who you truly are.
It can be incredibly subtle and many times we’ve become so used to feeling negative emotion that we tolerate it and assume that “it’s just the way things have to be.”
But accepting negative feelings as the reality you have to live with could not be further from the truth.
Your emotions are your built-in guidance system and you can use them to take your life in the direction you want it to go.
How to Positively Use Negative Emotions
When you notice a negative emotion, use it as a cue to check in with yourself. Ask yourself one of these questions and see what you find:
What am I thinking right now?
What am I telling myself?
Once you uncover the thought that’s accompanying the negative emotion you’re feeling, you’ll know more about what you do not like, or do not want in that moment. This is incredibly valuable to know.
Here’s where the powerful realization I mentioned earlier comes in. When you know what you don’t want, you may not realize it (I didn’t), but you also know what you do want. This creates clarity and clarity is a game changer.
Knowing what you don’t want lets you become more clear about what it is you do want.
Knowing what you want in any given moment allows you to shift your focus from what you don’t want to what you do want.
A perfect example of this is my own experience as I was writing this post. In the morning, I was really inspired to write this post and could not wait to sit down and start writing.
My kids were still home from school for the summer and sometimes they’re crazy and loud. So, I was grooving along writing this post when I gradually became aware of the volume going up and background sounds becoming more animated in the back of the house. My kids weren’t fighting or anything, they were just playing music and goofing off.
I began feeling a tightness in my shoulders and chest and felt myself getting frustrated as distraction was setting in while I was trying to write. In that moment, I saw it—negative emotion.
When I recognized the feeling of frustrated distraction, I asked myself, “What do I want in this moment?”
The instant answer: “I want to be able to focus on what I’m doing.”
I knew that if I kept my butt planted at the computer trying to power through writing from a place of frustrated distraction, the end result was going to suck and the excited and inspired place I started from would not shine through. Ultimately I’d create more work for myself because I’d probably redo the whole post later, or even worse, not write it at all.
So, I took a break and went outside to walk the dogs. With intention, I focused my thoughts on how cool it was that I felt inspired this morning to write (I’ve been experiencing writer’s block lately). I also focused on how good it felt to have written all that I had so far. As I intentionally focused on these positive points, better thoughts and feelings followed.
When I got home, I sat down to continue writing, this time from a better-feeling place. The words flowed with ease, even though my kids were still home and still making noise. I was focused and clear and the noise no longer bothered me.
Detecting Invisible Fear-Based Thoughts
Fear-based thoughts sometimes don’t look or sound at all like fear, but the way you are feeling is a huge sign letting you know if your thoughts are aligned with fear, or with love.
Here are some examples of fear-based thought, paired with desire for what might be wanted in that moment and the truth your inner wisdom might be trying to offer you, when you start listening for it:
- I am too weak to do this exercise. | I want to be strong.
- I am not good at this. | I want to be good at this.
- I can’t do this. | I want to have the skill to be able to do this.
- I don’t like myself. | I want to love myself.
- I’m broken. | I want to have hope that things will get better.
- This is just how I am. | Change is possible.
- I’ll never be able to do this. | I really want to do this.
- Nothing will ever change. | I know change is possible.
Any time you make a statement about yourself, especially when you put “I am” in front of it, you’re making a declaration about yourself; whether it’s positive or negative doesn’t matter.
And guess what? When you say, or think these affirmations, especially when strong feelings are involved, chances are you’ll prove yourself right.
When you think fear-based thoughts while attempting something that requires strength, like Pilates for instance, your results are going to be a fraction of what they could be.
The thing to remember that can snap you out of a downward thought-spiral is this:
Love is stronger than fear… always.
So, the best way to support your successful self when you’re feeling negative emotion is to identify what the thought accompanying the emotion is and use it as an informant, letting you know what you actually, truly want in that moment. Then look for ways and thoughts that help you align with what you want.
If you’re attempting something new and/or difficult and feel discouraged, you might say to yourself, or out loud, “This is hard and I may not be able to do this today, but I give myself credit for trying” or, “This feels really difficult right now, but how cool would it be if I pulled it off?” These are thoughts that are more aligned with the truth of who you really are and your results are going to be stronger and you will feel so much better if you allow yourself to focus on thoughts that feel better to think.
You still might not be able to completely do what you are working toward, but you will be closer than you were before you started. You will have already begun to achieve success in your mind and, if you keep up the good-feeling thoughts, inevitably the tangible success will follow.
By shifting your thoughts toward feeling better, versus beating yourself up or accepting the negative emotions as just the way it is, you are shifting your perception from fear to love.
This shift in perception is what a Miracle-Minded Body is all about.
So, the next time you find yourself not feeling the way you’d like to feel, check in to see what you’re thinking and use what you uncover to lead you toward how you’d like to feel in instead.
It might take practice at first—for me it’s an ongoing, daily practice throughout my day, every day, but it is so worth it.
This post was inspired by A Course In Miracles and Abraham-Hicks, works which have been major game changers in my life.